Yea, I know, it should read Happy Father’s Day but a Daddy is a father. I love mine so much and I hope you all love your daddy, just as much as I and if you don’t have a daddy, I hope you have lot’s of love in your life or maybe you might find it. Have a Great day!
I was taking my child to swim lessons, now a pre-teen. The drive from our house is less than 10 miles to the pool but lots of farm land in between. My child said “see all this land dad” and I said “yes” and they said “why can’t they build an Old Navy out here”. I said “oh out here , huh? Do you think an Old Navy would do well in Warren, Oregon? The reply “yea, an Old Navy, Macy’s, Nordstrom’s even Target because Fred Meyer isn’t working for me anymore.” This coming from a child who never has to buy anything, who isn’t old enough to tell what’s good and what isn’t. “Dad, Fred Meyer’s does not have any good clothes.” I realize it takes two to make a person so I’m not blaming myself.
Well, we wouldn’t have Daddy if we didn’t also have mommy and also a Happy Mother’s Day mom, I love you!
Wednesday I get a call from my ex who says our child has just been bitten by the neighbor dog. I dashed over there and beings that we live far from town the Urgent care center was long past closed so we had to drive 20 miles to a hospital in the city. The mother called my ex and said the dog nipped our child. They gave our child a dirty dish rag and told them they needed to walk home. Walk home? Nip? Our child was attacked and through the sobs said the dog started attacking and wouldn’t stop and kept biting and biting. Blood was everywhere, arm gash, shoulder gash, deep side wounds, so the dog was obviously going for the organs, back scratches. The father beat the dog in front of all these kids. My child had to walk home, it was awful. Four hours later we left the emergency room, antibiotics needed and more trips to the doctors to come. My ex called the mother who then started crying that the dog was only a puppy (quite a big bull mastiff) The police went to the home at 11:00 where 7 kids said their mommy and daddy weren’t at home but one child did tell the police that their mommy had gone to the home but the lady slammed the door in her face. First off that is irrelevant, secondly My ex barely had time to call me and we left for the hospital. We could only hope we had been there to slam the door. My ex was breathing fire and lighting bolts were shooting from her hair. What do I do? I’m a concerned daddy. I want to talk to the dog owners. The mother said the kids were teasing the dog and my child said no dad, the three of us were sitting on the couch watching TV and the dog jumped on the couch and started growling. My child was probably sitting in that dog’s spot. Had the mother brought my child home said she was attacked and what could she do, would’ve made a better situation but now we have to go the legal route and it’s sad. Had this been their younger sister, she wouldn’t have been able to protect herself and could’ve been killed. Lucky we didn’t have any facial injuries, remember, no stitching dog bites. Cheers!
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Hi all, we have a cat, kitty box is in a small not well-ventilated laundry room but plenty of shelves for extra towels, storage, etc. I’ve noticed that the kitty litter dust fly’s through the air and sits around on everything. Any clothing and really all your stuff begins to smell like kitty litter. Solution? Save those see thru plastic zip bags you get every time you buy a new comforter, mattress pad or pillows. These are perfect for storing Beach towels that you might only use a few times each year, perhaps just general needs and coverings for extra towels or whatever. No more kitty litter dust getting on clothing we store on shelves in the laundry room.
All of the sudden I realize my child is growing up, watching and really liking the TV shows: Property Brothers, Love it or List it and then on the Food Network watches – Cupcake Wars – Wow.
Seems like I’ve been away too long. Weekend Traveling Basketball games, work and parenting. Parenting, it is so rewarding to me. My child wrote me a wonderful note thanking me for their Christmas. To give gifts and receive gifts from a child is usually a one way street but now as a 6th grader my child is seeing everything around them and is in tune with their world and in touch with their feelings as well as becoming such a wonderful person. This age doesn’t like talking about the time when daddy won’t be there anymore, so we stay on happier subjects or as I’ve said in the past, we as a human in Western Civilization don’t know how to talk about death with family members and it be okay during and after. So we say let’s talk about something happier, because the alternative we say is sad. I think in writing a blog I learn more about myself. Trying to become a better parent for my child, doing something with them when they ask you to. I’m trying to become a better co-parent, we’re in a place where my ex and I can sit together at our child’s basketball game and she can introduce me to an old friend of hers who had come to our wedding. My ex said it was 13 years ago and I said to be honest it was 14 years, 6 months, 21 days, 16 hours, 48 minutes, 19 seconds… she elbowed me and we all laughed.. That’s what co-parenting should be all about.
There are too many things to mention that would argue hereditary traits are more common than we know. Three things come to mind with my child. “Hey Dad, can we get rid of your stuff”? Kind of bothers me that what interests me, isn’t important to him/her. I can’t explain why I like antiques, old toys, etc. My child’s mother was very Nuevo and her mother doesn’t care for antiques either. These three women don’t like a lot of things that are old and they like everything new. The second thing I noticed is my child doesn’t like to listen to me play the guitar and sing (every once in a while) and his/her mother was the same way. Now this is either an affirmation of my playing and singing or more of an embarrassment for them??I hope not. The third thing I’ve noticed is when my child’s toothpaste dispenser looks empty, it gets tossed away. I can squeeze another week out of that tube but both he/she and their mother wouldn’t bother and would already be on to the new tube. These aren’t just coincidences, they’re little things noticed and similarities of my ex and really nothing bad, just observations.
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Tagged Hey Dad
I recently got a phone call asking “daddy, when are you coming home”? I told him/her what time it would be and he/she asked if I could wait a little longer? I was told there would be a surprise waiting for me when I got home. I was getting ready to leave the office when the phone rang again, with my child now saying “Okay daddy it’s now okay for you to come home”. I really didn’t have any idea what my surprise would be? When I arrived home my child met me at the door and I got the grand tour. My house was spotless, carpets were vacuumed, every room was as clean as I had ever wanted, this is a house still full of toys mind you. His/Her bathroom was rearranged and so neat looking. I posted this little story on facebook and got more likes from friends than anything I had ever posted before. I feel so blessed. My friends say I’m doing something right. This is the time I will also give props to mom, she and I are in this together.
Once our children are back in school, order is restored. When school lets out for the summer, filling that time becomes a parent’s job. My ex and I co-parented well, making monthly calenders, showing each other our vacations and various camps we chose to fill that time. My child played in the band last year and intends to this year but this dad didn’t do enough to demand a little practice time during vacation. As a parent you want to get them prepared for the next grade but I suppose this time off for their brains is what summer vacation is all about. This summer I was fortunate to have someone to take my child to a basketball camp, youth rec center and then have them ready for me when I got off work. In our community these camps are put on by the school district, many of the Varsity coaches in high school run these camps and the cost is nominal and well worth it. My child’s mother’s family was invited to Hawaii for 10 days. Technology is awesome. I’m sitting at home and the phone has this funny ring tone, so I pick it up. It’s this thing called Face-Time and there on the other end is my child in Hawaii and takes me on a tour of the house they’re staying at, all the rooms, the beach in back, all this from an iPod. To continue with technology we spent a week at the beach. Awesome weather but one day I’m lying in my tent and say out loud “I wish I had a mirror” (knowing the car would work) but just that quick from the opposite tent I hear my child yell “hey dad, just turn the camera on your phone and flip it to see your face.. Genius. Amazing how quick they think of this stuff and how advanced they are with technology. Any-who the summer has gone well, it’s been filled, time occupied and stress has lessened. I’d like to give props to the parents in my child’s friends’ circle. There have been sleepovers that have allowed me to pick up my child after work and save me on the cost of a daycare camp, so Thank you to them.