Happy Daddy’s Day, Father’s Day to me, my daddy and all the daddy’s in the World. Dad I love you very much. May God bless you all.
You are the real heroes, all mommy’s. A shout out to my wonderful mommy, mom, mother, I love you so much. As you’ve gotten older, the only importance in your life is trying to keep your family together in a world with mixed messages and signals and where brother and sisters believe in different things. As the traditionalists would say, Happy Mother’s day!
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Was I not strict enough when my child was younger? Have I created a child aloof, who doesn’t care about the things that bother me? Dad doesn’t like seeing dishes with food piled on top of food still in a dish, yuck. How about the spoon covered in sour cream that just gets dropped in the sink, or the spoon used for cat food just gets dropped in the sink. How about food left on a plate in their bedroom. Ugh. “I asked you to clean out the kitty box”. It sure would help dad if you emptied the dish washer for me.” The list goes on and on but they are getting closer and closer to adulthood. I guess this is the person they are becoming. I can nag, nag, nag or give an ultimatum. Suggestions?
My child is in middle school, soon to be in high school. They’re now too cool for daddy. Daddy is silly, not cool, a little bit irrelevant? They’re becoming young men and young women and it happens so fast. You just turn the page and the little kid is gone. I think they learn a lot about the world in middle school, what’s cool, what’s not cool. They look forward to the school dance and hanging with their friends. I used to save the school year’s work in a box and label each, I think 7th grade was hardly any and 8th grade almost no school work. I think they may be tossing the stuff before daddy gets to see. No matter how much I’m not involved, they’re still my babies and always will be. I’m an over protective dad and won’t apologize for it. I try to tell them ” I didn’t raise you that way” but don’t remember if I taught them that or not? I still love being a parent at my age. My friend asked me if I wanted to die alone and I said No but we kind of do anyways. I don’t want to be selfish for my happiness until my child is on their way, on their own in life. How fair would it be for me to tell a potential date that you might not be the number one girl in my life. That isn’t fair to her but if I had a daughter, she would be number one in my life.
My ex and I have been divorced for 9 years, I still joke with people that I’m happily divorced. I hear so many stories of exes who hate each other. My ex and I aren’t like that, we’ve worked together to make a good home life for our children. If either needs to change the schedule we both accommodate. We’ve never used our children as pawns. If my ex wants to take my child on my day, we usually try to trade. We never argue about our schedules. Many of the hard and fast rules we stated in our mediation, doesn’t apply anymore. It is hard to raise children in separate homes with two sets of rules, especially when they become teenagers. I think my child is growing up to be a well rounded individual. I see traits reminding me of mommy but I think those traits are at least 50% diluted. In all seriousness, I feel like I picked correctly the individual I married and although the marriage didn’t last, the person I chose to be a part of my life was a pretty good choice.
Bed time has become a bonding time in our family. Whenever my child is ready for bed, they come into my room and we sit and watch an episode of Gilligan’s Island. They sing the theme song, they can’t believe how stupid the show is but they love it. My child’s favorite character on the show is Mrs. Howell. I always watched the show from Gilligan’s eyes but it’s cool to hear a different perspective.
Yea only 4 posts since last daddy’s day. I love you so much dad and to all the wonderful daddy’s in the world. Seems harder and harder to come in here as my child gets older and less to share.
First off I must say Happy Mother’s Day Mommy to the most wonderful mother in the whole world. It seems the posts are becoming fewer as my child gets older. Usually a friend spends the night or they spend the night with a friend. I don’t see them as much as usual. They don’t tell me as much as they used to. New words for different meanings. Daddy isn’t as cool as he used to be unless he can figure out a favorite song on the guitar so my child can sing it. Would I be selfish for dating part time? Doesn’t seem like I’ve been able to throw myself back into the dating scene. Doesn’t seem fair that my child is # 1 in my life and a date would have to be # 2. Most people don’t look at love and life the same way. I think people can be selfish and what makes them feel better is all that matters. Yes I would like to be with someone, just not comfortable dating, introducing and explaining to my child why I don’t see that person anymore. Ugh. There is a time frame for courting and now at this point in my life, I see ladies who are out discovering the world traveling or doing outdoor activities or doing things I wouldn’t want to do. They all hike, maybe I’d like to if I tried more. They all have dogs and I’m becoming a person who doesn’t care for many of the dog owner, the dog is fine. Maybe I’m wrestling with self esteem issues, not in the best shape of my life and I get older and older. Again UGH. Had to share, please take care. I love you mom.
October to April, an entire life goes by in 6 months. My child is growing so fast, bedroom doors stay closed a lot, teenager in the making and it’s tough on dad. No more kisses and hugs like it used to be. Their alone time is now called Chillaxing. I can’t believe they’ll be driving my car in only 2 years. Egads. Middle school now and grades have been good, a year on the honor roll means something is going right in their lives. Daddy couldn’t be happier.
It was all I could think to say. Sometimes in life, you get so busy, it doesn’t seem there’s enough time to sit and write, parenting becomes tops in priorities. Have been proof-reading for my Church. My child is growing up so quickly, daddy is kind of becoming irrelevant. Middle school has started and all seems well, grades are good, lot’s of sports. We’ll be back. Cheers.